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When was the most recent occasion you confidently made a decision that felt unequivocally right and aligned with your current stage in life? 

Pause, consider……

Sometimes you remember this as profound a moment you remember fondly or a moment that changed the course of your life.

Daily, our choices are typically influenced by our preferences, tastes, past experiences, prejudices, and an inherent sense of knowing and we are making decisions constantly in every moment, some are unconscious, habitual or come from the known.

Our life’s journey can seem uncertain, and the destination elusive. There are moments when clarity graces us and suddenly, the fog lifts, revealing a clearer vision of our desires and aspirations and then there are moments where it feels hard and messy. 

Navigating our life’s journey with a newfound sense of clarity can be a transformative experience, guiding us to a point where our genuine aspirations become undeniably evident.

But where do we start when none of the above is evident and the roadmap looks fixed and certain, you know you need to create some kind of shift and or change, but it feels like your destiny has already been decided.

When we come from a place of “fixed”, we are making decisions based on fear, fear of losing what we already have, fear of upsetting others, fear of being pushed out, fear of it not working out, clarity disappears and fear settles. 

We suddenly no longer permit ourselves to choose or let it come through, we are no longer in the driver’s seat of our lives, we are sitting in the back seat, quite often expecting something magical to happen or someone else to sort it out and save us.

We don’t know what we don’t know. Being unaware of our blocks, beliefs, the internal dialogue can bring even more uncertainty in the beginning but it is the thing that releases us from all that we are not, permitting us to get curious about who we are and what is possible, therefore it is the first step that needs to be taken to getting back into the driver’s seat of our life.

As we cultivate awareness of the inner dialogues and observe the mental processes, tuning into the mind’s communication with the body becomes crucial. Exploring the sensations that arise when receiving both affirmations and rejections or when being acknowledged and provided with feedback, holds profound power. Delving into these encounters serves as a catalyst for healing, offering a transformative journey into the intricate dynamics of our emotional experiences.

Building and sustaining self-awareness practices doesn’t have to be complicated; simplicity is key.

Make them consistent and build from there.

Mindful Breathing

Journalling 

Meditation

Gratitude Practice

Explore books written about the human experience

Emotions Checkin (take the time to check in and acknowledge how you are feeling, without having to fix, make wrong or dissect)

Connect to Nature

Tech Detox

Single Tasking (instead of multitasking) Hard one for many!

Intention Setting

Body Work

There are many more that can be explored over time, some will fit into your day and routine and some you may visit periodically.

The key is to start, step forward and be courageous.

As this process is taking place there becomes a space for us to explore our values, passions, and interests. What brings you joy? What activities make you lose track of time? Understanding yourself is key to discovering what truly matters to you.

Clarity is often a result of clearing out and letting go of what is not in our favour or serving us any longer.

There comes a point in our life when we grow weary of our inauthenticity—prioritising others over ourselves, offering apologies unnecessarily, maintaining weak boundaries, and embracing diminished self-confidence. This behaviour, once accepted, no longer serves us; instead, it drains our energy and life force, becoming a hindrance rather than a source of empowerment.

Fortunately, it is in these moments that clarity often reveals itself. Despite our previous role, we come to the realisation that we no longer wish to embody the persona we’ve portrayed for all these years.

Finding clarity often requires a willingness and openness to change. Be willing to adapt our expectations and aspirations as you grow and evolve. Life is dynamic, and the ability to adjust your course can lead to more authentic and fulfilling outcomes.

When we start to navigate life with awareness, built on the foundation of doing the work of knowing who we are, our beliefs and stories, we start to experience more clarity and it’s as if life starts to open up to us in extraordinary ways, opportunities, moments of meeting the right person for your next step, experience of saying no to an opportunity that you would normally jump at as you know it’s not right. Having the confidence to navigate opportunities and challenges that come up.

Understanding this on an intellectual level is valuable, yet its impact is limited. To truly progress, we must invest time in feeling the emotions coursing through us. It requires slowing down, creating space, and integrating the intellectual knowledge into our practices. Recognising that we are not defined by our thoughts empowers us to be a witness in moments of distress. Rather than attaching ourselves to the pain and interpreting it as a sign of inadequacy, lack of love, or absence of support, we can consciously choose to observe and disassociate.

When the inner work becomes a priority, and the journey of self-discovery unfolds, a remarkable transformation takes place. As the dust settles and clarity emerges from the shadows of self-exploration, we find ourselves becoming beacons of light. The culmination of this internal work manifests as a source that radiates fulfilment.

The profound realisation is that true fulfilment is not solely contingent on external circumstances or accomplishments. It comes from the depth of understanding oneself, embracing authenticity, and aligning with one’s core values. This inner alignment, achieved through introspection and personal growth, transforms us into conduits of radiant energy and purpose.

Whatever we decide in the professional space, personal relationships, or creative pursuits, the fulfilment generated from within permeates every aspect of our existence.

This radiance is contagious. Others are drawn to the authenticity and joy that emanate from a person who has delved deep into self-discovery. By embodying a fulfilled life, we inspire those around us to embark on their journeys of introspection and growth. They want to know what’s happened, why are you so happy and look so well! The ripple effect of this transformative energy extends beyond ourselves, contributing to the collective consciousness in profound ways.

The beauty lies in the realisation that anyone, regardless of their circumstances, has the potential to become a beacon of light. It starts with the conscious choice to embark on the inner journey, to peel back the layers of conditioned beliefs, and to rediscover the authentic self. Through this ongoing process, we not only illuminate our path but also illuminate the way for others, collectively co-creating a world enriched by the light of fulfilled lives.

“We’re all just walking each other home.”Ram Das